Comments on: Church too girly for real men? http://blog.journeyonline.com.au/2010/01/28/church-too-girly-for-real-men/ Share your thoughts, passions and dreams for the Uniting Church in Queensland Thu, 29 Sep 2011 10:46:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: david http://blog.journeyonline.com.au/2010/01/28/church-too-girly-for-real-men/comment-page-1/#comment-699 david Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:29:21 +0000 http://blog.journeyonline.com.au/?p=490#comment-699 One of the experts on this is David Murrow, and I thoroughly recommend his book "Why Men Hate Going to Church" (see Journey - May '07). If you can read it with a spirit of acceptance, it is a real eye-opener. He also names some of the traps that we can fall into. This discussion has already slightly headed towards two of these traps. Trap 1 - I refuse to believe there is a problem. (Because admitting there is a problem might mean change, and I am quite comfortable with the way things are - even if it means turning men away from Christ). Trap 2 - The solution to an overly feminine church is to create an overly masculine church. Surely two complete distortions will somehow average out into an accurate portrayal of Christ. Don't two wrongs make a right? Having said that, a balanced church might appear 'manly' to people who have spent many years in churches that strive more for being ladylike than being Christlike. One of the experts on this is David Murrow, and I thoroughly recommend his book “Why Men Hate Going to Church” (see Journey – May ’07). If you can read it with a spirit of acceptance, it is a real eye-opener.

He also names some of the traps that we can fall into. This discussion has already slightly headed towards two of these traps.

Trap 1 – I refuse to believe there is a problem. (Because admitting there is a problem might mean change, and I am quite comfortable with the way things are – even if it means turning men away from Christ).

Trap 2 – The solution to an overly feminine church is to create an overly masculine church. Surely two complete distortions will somehow average out into an accurate portrayal of Christ. Don’t two wrongs make a right?

Having said that, a balanced church might appear ‘manly’ to people who have spent many years in churches that strive more for being ladylike than being Christlike.

]]> By: Rhonda Mac Erlich http://blog.journeyonline.com.au/2010/01/28/church-too-girly-for-real-men/comment-page-1/#comment-697 Rhonda Mac Erlich Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:53:19 +0000 http://blog.journeyonline.com.au/?p=490#comment-697 Well since God is not really a man as such, and both man and woman are made in the image of God. I carn't see a problem, with men singing songs to God. It's nice to have a balance of men and woman preachers, because they all bring something different to the service. Real men ? maybe they could have a beer after the service instead of tea or coffee. Well since God is not really a man as such, and both man and woman are made in the image of God. I carn’t see a problem, with men singing songs to God. It’s nice to have a balance of men and woman preachers, because they all bring something different to the service. Real men ? maybe they could have a beer after the service instead of tea or coffee.

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